tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909867752899675775.post2213985631224860742..comments2020-01-10T03:07:23.484+08:00Comments on A Mummy in a Strange Land: No Photos Please, We're Expats!BLWChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15125222924808203732noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909867752899675775.post-12569189122409984552011-03-25T23:34:52.201+08:002011-03-25T23:34:52.201+08:00Have a blond and blue eyed and smiley 1 year old g...Have a blond and blue eyed and smiley 1 year old girl.. it started at the airport back in germany, at least she asked for it. Since we are in HK and we got used to her being photographed without permission, and our strategy now - after being speechless the first times - is to say that a photo of her cost xxx Dollar (amount depending on the peer group :). Then they are so irritated that they unpack their mobile/camera. Not very friendly but effective. Best regards :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00833000200188153026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6909867752899675775.post-38028901994944721242010-08-18T01:27:32.219+08:002010-08-18T01:27:32.219+08:00When we arrived in HKG I went on a hike with a fri...When we arrived in HKG I went on a hike with a friends and my then 8mo old baby girl who was in a Snugli carrier facing outward. We headed out onto Deep Water Bay beach for the start of our hike. I paused for a few seconds to take in the scenery and was surrounded by these three chinese women and a young man who was with them snapping pics. I was pretty speechless especially when the ladies took my arms and moved ME to get a better angle for their photo. I had my friend grab my camera to take a picture of it all since noone back home would believe the story. <br />Unwanted photography is especially frequent if the child has any of the following: red hair, blonde hair, blue eyes, curly hair...basically any coloring other than straight black hair/black eyes...or a very smiley baby (as many of the Chinese babies don't seem to smile much in public)<br />There will be people who will politely come up and ask to take photos with the kids, (to which depending on what kiddo is doing I'll politely reply 'I'm sorry, no') but the vast majority I have found will just snap away blatantly or surreptitiously. I got sick of it real fast and developed a blanket NO Photos policy as we had some people try to take our eldest child by the hand and move her away/push me out of the way to take pictures or put their hands on her shoulders etc. <br />I always start with a polite "no" accompanied by a wave of the hand and/or shaking 'no' of the head then maneuvering child or self so as to bugger up their shot. This usually works after one or two tries and the vast majority smile, nod and sometimes even say 'sorry, sorry'. For those that persist...I become Mama Bear-I've gone to great lengths at times of making people who take without asking delete the photos. I've also been known to shove hands in front of cameras/video cameras. (I can tell you stories from Disney and Ocean Park) Some of what I have done has been a bit extreme and overprotective, but at the same time due to the situation and how the other people were acting/reacting and what as happened in the past...<br />And so you know...it isn't just the Chinese that do it...many helpers take pics with their cellphones of the kids too. Had one helper position herself with her charge and my daughter at Playtown for cellphone pics while I was chasing down little guy. <br />I tried not to get too angry when a helper, from around here, upon my first time meeting her showed me pics she had taken of my kids at the playground!<br />As baby girl is now a little older and more opinionated, when people ask to take a photo with her, I tell them I need to ask her, then ask her if she wants to. If she wants to, fine...one picture--but most of the time she says no...to which I defend her position fiercely and politely reiterate to whomever is asking that no, she doesn't want her photo taken.<br />Photo taking has subside a bit as she has grown in age, but due to her red curly hair...not by much. (they also like to pat her head too...not sure if this is for luck because of the color?) Our smiley little guy gets lots of attention for his smiles, but not as many wanting pictures as of late much to my relief.<br />Part of me doesn't like it because I feel they are invading our privacy. Part of me wonders 'why do you need six pictures of my daughter being goofy on the MTR?' (esp the ones taken with cell phones) <br />Take heart, my friend, you are not alone!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com